Moving On After The End Of A Relationship
If your relationship or marriage has recently ended or is in the process of ending, you are likely experiencing a range of emotions - sadness / depression, loss, anger, confusion, and maybe even relief.
These emotions can be overwhelming and separation is a very common reason clients reach out to us for counselling support.
Even if it was an unhealthy or toxic relationship, it is quite common to feel a sense of grief and mourning following a breakup.
Because your relationship impacts so many areas of your life, you may have difficulty adjusting to the change in your lifestyle and routines in the weeks and months after a separation.
Emotionally, a divorce or breakup can negatively impact self-esteem, cause feelings of guilt, and even a sense of failure.
Sometimes, there may be feelings of shame, especially if the breakup was caused by infidelity or cheating.
It can be tough moving on, adjusting to life without your ex, and gaining closure, but our therapists can assist and guide you through this challenging time in your life.
We welcome you to book an appointment with our Halifax psychologists, or complete the form at the bottom of this page.
We offer both in-person and virtual therapy.
We offer supportive, evidence-based, scientifically validated therapy and custom match every client with a therapist who best suited for your needs and goals in counselling.
These emotions can be overwhelming and separation is a very common reason clients reach out to us for counselling support.
Even if it was an unhealthy or toxic relationship, it is quite common to feel a sense of grief and mourning following a breakup.
Because your relationship impacts so many areas of your life, you may have difficulty adjusting to the change in your lifestyle and routines in the weeks and months after a separation.
Emotionally, a divorce or breakup can negatively impact self-esteem, cause feelings of guilt, and even a sense of failure.
Sometimes, there may be feelings of shame, especially if the breakup was caused by infidelity or cheating.
It can be tough moving on, adjusting to life without your ex, and gaining closure, but our therapists can assist and guide you through this challenging time in your life.
We welcome you to book an appointment with our Halifax psychologists, or complete the form at the bottom of this page.
We offer both in-person and virtual therapy.
We offer supportive, evidence-based, scientifically validated therapy and custom match every client with a therapist who best suited for your needs and goals in counselling.
Will I Ever Find Love Again?
This is the most common worry / fear our clients express after a divorce or breakup.
It is very normal to wonder after a breakup if you will find love again. It's natural to feel uncertainty and worry about the future and whether you'll be able to find someone else to love (and to be loved by).
Although it may be difficult to believe right now, we have seen it happen countless time. Yes, if you have loved in the past, it is very (very) likely that you will find love again.
Of course, it's also important to give yourself time to heal and process your feelings before jumping into a new relationship.
Relationships end for many reasons, and it is not a reflection of your worth or ability to be in a healthy relationship in the future.
It is very normal to wonder after a breakup if you will find love again. It's natural to feel uncertainty and worry about the future and whether you'll be able to find someone else to love (and to be loved by).
Although it may be difficult to believe right now, we have seen it happen countless time. Yes, if you have loved in the past, it is very (very) likely that you will find love again.
Of course, it's also important to give yourself time to heal and process your feelings before jumping into a new relationship.
Relationships end for many reasons, and it is not a reflection of your worth or ability to be in a healthy relationship in the future.
What Are Common Thoughts After A Separation?
Do any of these questions sound familiar?
Similar to the question about finding love again, these concerns are, of course, common and natural.
However, it is important to remember that moving forward is possible with time, self-reflection, support from friends and loved ones.
Professional support in counselling can also be very helpful in the healing process.
- "What did I do wrong?"
- "Can we still be friends?"
- "How will this affect my family or friend circle?"
- "How did I not see this coming?"
- What could I have done to prevent this?
- "What does this say about me as a person?"
- "Was I too needy or demanding in the relationship?"
- "Was the relationship a waste of time?"
Similar to the question about finding love again, these concerns are, of course, common and natural.
However, it is important to remember that moving forward is possible with time, self-reflection, support from friends and loved ones.
Professional support in counselling can also be very helpful in the healing process.
How Long Will It Take To Get Over My Ex?
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Much like grief, the time it takes to get over a breakup or divorce can vary quite a bit from person to person and depends on factors such as the length and depth of the relationship, the reasons for the breakup or divorce, the external support you have, and your coping skills.
In therapy, some of our clients are able to move on fairly quickly, while others may struggle with the emotions associated with the end of a relationship for a longer period of time. There is no set timeline for healing and it's perfectly okay to take the time needed to process and work through the emotions that follow a breakup or divorce. |
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So, what are the signs that you may be having difficulty moving on after a breakup, divorce, or separation?
- Often thinking about your ex or often bringing them up in conversation
- Checking your ex's social media or asking mutual friends for updates on their life
- Having strong emotional reactions when you see or hear about your ex
- Comparing new partners to your ex or feeling like something is missing in your current relationship
- Engaging in activities that remind you of your ex or make you feel closer to them
Can Anything Positive Come From A Breakup?
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Yes, of course!
It's helpful to remember that not all relationships are meant to last forever. The end of a relationship can provide you with the opportunity to reflect on the relationship, identify what went wrong, and the traps or patterns to avoid in future relationships. It can give you the opportunity for personal growth and self-reflection, allowing you to focus on your own needs and well-being. Of course, if you are in an unhealthy or abusive relationship, ending it can be a very positive (and often necessary) step towards a healthier future. |
How Can Therapy Help After A Breakup Or Divorce?
After a breakup or divorce, our psychologists and counsellors can providing a safe, non-judgemental, and supportive space for you to process your emotions and thoughts about the separation, identify unhelpful patterns of thinking or behaviour that may be contributing to your distress, and help you develop healthy coping strategies.
We can help you gain insight into the relationship, how it may have met certain needs but may have been missing other important qualities, and help you reflect on what you have learned and how you can grow from the experience.
Our therapists can provide support and guidance as you look towards the future and the possibilities that lie ahead :)
We can help you gain insight into the relationship, how it may have met certain needs but may have been missing other important qualities, and help you reflect on what you have learned and how you can grow from the experience.
Our therapists can provide support and guidance as you look towards the future and the possibilities that lie ahead :)
Let's Get Started.
We are conveniently located in Halifax, Nova Scotia and have many clients from the areas of Bedford, Sackville, Clayton Park, and Dartmouth.
We provide in-person and online therapy to all of Nova Scotia and also offer virtual counselling to clients in New Brunswick.
Please complete our short request form below and we will be in touch asap with appointment options.
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Green Leaf Psychological - Halifax, Nova Scotia
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